When NOT to Live Your Destiny, Part 4

This series was originally written by Tony Stoltzfus– a well-known author, coach and coach trainer who runs an on-line Christian coaching bookstore at Coach22.com. This is part 4 of 4. : : : Here is the final often-overlooked principle that can indicate when in life it is time to hold our call lightly or even let it [...]


This series was originally written by Tony Stoltzfus– a well-known author, coach and coach trainer who runs an on-line Christian coaching bookstore at Coach22.com. This is part 4 of 4.

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Here is the final often-overlooked principle that can indicate when in life it is time to hold our call lightly or even let it go:

When it becomes about you

Since by definition a calling is “from God, for others” your destiny is ultimately about helping other people. The whole reason you have a mission is to make a difference in the lives of those you are called to help. That means sometimes the program or the organization or the mission will have to take a back seat to the simply act of loving the people around us well.

When we are getting overly attached to pursuing our own destiny, or are making an idol out of our destiny, a clear warning sign is that the people we are supposed to help are ignored or even hurt in our pursuit of “the call”. For instance, the church that cycles through or burns out leaders is usually guilty of being overly focused on mission or programs, to the extent that the people cease to matter much. Another example is the father or mother who isn’t around for the kids because they are out saving the world, or the leader who will make ethical compromises to get the Kingdom work done. That’s not just being out of balance, it’s idolatry: we’ve given our allegiance to our dream or our sense of significance or following our passions instead of our master.

Just because you have a call doesn’t mean you should be running after it. Discern God’s timing and God’s method for bringing your life purpose to pass.

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