The 5 Mistakes that Sabotage Your Success

There are times when most of us have experienced that sense of despair that comes from trying to reach our goals and seeing no light at the end of the tunnel, do the one thing that stops our progress cold… we sabotage ourselves. During the dotcom bomb, thousands of highly qualified men and women could not [...]

There are times when most of us have experienced that sense of despair that comes from trying to reach our goals and seeing no light at the end of the tunnel, do the one thing that stops our progress cold… we sabotage ourselves.

During the dotcom bomb, thousands of highly qualified men and women could not get a job. No amount of calling in favours or bribing helped to get them a new job. The market was in a state of gloom.

As a means to stay connected a myriad of out-of-work networking and other groups were formed. And in these groups business professionals from various occupations all shared one common battle – the battle to stay positive while under duress.

The small business warrior is no stranger to this battle. Having invested all the time, money and energy you can afford – and what you’ve borrowed – the results you anticipated don’t come soon enough.

To continue fighting the good fight, and stay on course, avoid the following most common self-sabotage mistakes:

1. Limited Beliefs

Our thoughts and words are powerful. They are the number one support tool we have to guide us towards our goals.

When we don’t believe we can, we won’t.

It’s a universal law that those things we say to ourselves as well as what we think about, manifests in our lives. Changing your belief system as it relates to your success is the #1 first step towards achieving success. Believe that you can, and you will!

2. Lack of vision

What is the vision you have for your life by the end of 2008? What about the end of 2009? Do you see significant enrichment in your life? If not, is your vision too small?

Having worked with entrepreneurs for the past few years, one common obstacle that repeatedly reveals itself is lack of vision (no vision at all or a very small view of the future) or vision that is fuzzy, not clear.

Your vision is much like the roadmap for your life. Would you take a long-distance trip without plotting out your route, rest stops, etc.? If you want to enjoy your trip and get to your final destination comfortably, probably not!

Plotting out your vision is essential to make sure you are going in the right direction. Take the time to visualise your future. Don’t let limited beliefs and old programming stand in the way of what is possible.

3. Fear of the unknown

I remember as a small child, jumping into a lake was frightening. Not because I had a fear of water or of drowning, but because I feared what was beneath the dark pool of liquid.
I couldn’t see what was beyond the top layer of deep blue water and it paralysed me.

Not knowing what we might encounter by trying a new approach in our business is like jumping into the unknown. As frightening as it might feel, we do not need to be ruled by our feelings.

After finally taking the plunge (no pun intended) and jumping into the lake, I realised that my fear was for nothing. The experience, although scary at first, was invigorating and thrilling. Later, as I got older, I decided to really go into the deep and became a certified scuba diver. I’ve never regretted conquering the fear of the unknown.

4. Toxic relationships

Wouldn’t it be lovely if everyone we ever knew and know supported every decision we made with fervour? Some of us are lucky to have incredible support systems in our lives while others battle the war of toxic relationships.

Can we change them? No. The only things we have 100% power over is how we manage what is dished out to us. This means that while we can’t expect others to change (nothing wrong with praying for it), we can change how we choose to accept the negative feedback we receive from them. For example, if you know that a friend, family member or colleague is especially unsupportive of your business, don’t discuss business with that person. Instead, discuss your business with those in your sphere that you know will provide you with the support and nurturing you need to lift you up.

While we can’t always divorce our family members, we can divorce ourselves from their negativity.

5. Fear of success

Watching a Discovery channel documentary about a young woman who was more than 200 pounds overweight, I witnessed fear of success at its worst.

The cameras followed this woman for over one year. During that time, she dropped a significant amount of weight and with it came a loss of dignity and control. The more weight she lost, the more pressure she felt to stay thin and the more erratic her behaviour became.

She later admitted that with each pound lost, she felt pressured to keep her weight off but also to live up to a new set of standards – the standards she perceived were expected of a thinner woman. Her family and friends offered her all the support they could give. Her perceptions were based on her belief system and not the judgment of her sphere.

Later, no longer being able to handle the pressure (that she put on herself), she began to gain back her weight. At last report, she had gained back all of the weight she had worked so hard to lose and then some.

Fear of success is crippling. If you are someone who fears success ask yourself this: Would I rather fear success and all that comes with it, or would I rather attract opportunities that are right for me? The choice IS yours.

If you find yourself caught in the fear cycle, re-evaluate your beliefs and vision. You and only you have the power to put a stop to the vicious self-sabotage revolving door.

Remember to think Big, live Big and play Big!

A speaker and author on the topic of personal branding, Liz Pabon delivers insights and principles that are proven to achieve Wild Success! If you’re ready to attract amazing clients, set yourself apart from the pack, make a lot more money, and have a lot more fun in your small business, get Liz’s Free Weekly Tips by going to www.thebrandingmaven.com

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